Welcome to the voxgig newsletter for tech speakers, 13 Apr 2018
Today's post is from Dr. Michelle Mazur, the ‘Communication Rebel’. With a Ph.D. in Communication, and over 10,000 speaking hours, there are few better qualified to help you not just make a speech, but make an impact.
This great article below by Dr. Michelle Mazur appeared originally on theCommunication Rebel website on Thursday March 1 2018, here.
You blew it. Your presentation sucked. During a dark night of the soul, you are wondering “Now what?”
So, you did what any normal human being would do: you Googled it, which landed you here.
First of all, welcome! Second, I want to tell you right off the bat – it's okay. Take a deep breath. Know that it is okay.
Bad presentations happen. Not closing the sale happens. Bombing your speech happens.
Bad speeches happen to good people (more often than you think).
Now, it’s all about how you recover from this incident. It’s about what you can learn, and how to move on.
Here’s my best advice for how to recover if your presentation sucked: go easy on yourself
Have you ever seen that sign on a car door mirror that says “Objects in this mirror are closer than they appear?”
Presentation screws-ups are bigger in YOUR mind than anyone else’s. How do I know that? I know because you landed on this page.
Right now, you’re beating yourself up. You're comparing yourself to other speakers. Your inner critic is raging at you, saying, “How could you? I told you that you didn’t prepare enough. That the message wasn’t clear enough. Did you see how you spit on that person in the front row?”
Tell that voice to shut its pie hole. NOW!
You are at a critical juncture and you have a choice. You can choose to further traumatize yourself or you can choose to go easy on yourself and move to my next piece of advice.
Do a presentation autopsy
That sounds gruesome, right? It’s not. In fact, you should think about the following questions after every presentation you give, whether awesome or sucky.
The first question to ask yourself is this: “What did I do WELL?”
I know you’re thinking, “Nothing, Michelle. That’s why I’ve read this far.”
Let’s be honest. You probably did at least one small thing right. Maybe you smiled at the audience. Got a laugh at a joke. Made it to the end even though you felt like you were sucking wind.
There’s always something to celebrate, so find it and focus on it.
Once you’ve identified what you did well (or maybe a couple of things you did well), ask yourself this: “What’s ONE thing I would do differently next time?”
ONE THING, not twenty things. Becoming a better speaker is something that happens incrementally. Trust me. When I first started speaking, I was BAD. But I kept at it and kept improving and over time I mastered it.
You can too. So what’s your one thing?
Maybe it’s spending more time developing your message, practicing it more so you vanquish those ‘um’s, or maybe it’s not drinking a bottle of wine the night before.
Pick one thing to improve then DO IT!
Speak again ASAP
Remember when you fell off your bike and scraped your knee as a kid? What did your parents tell you to do?
Did they tell you to see the bike as an evil demon so you never ride it again? Or did they tell you to get back on the bike and start pedaling?
You need to get back on the speaking bike as soon as possible.
The more you speak, the more skilled you will get. The sooner you stand up in front of a room and speak your mind, the sooner you will get over the fact that you think this presentation sucked.
Speak again as soon as possible and you’ll most likely find that this one time was a fluke.
You’ve made it to the end. I hope you are feeling a bit relieved. Go easy on yourself. Do your presentation autopsy. Celebrate what went well. Identify the one change you want to make. Get out there and speak again!
You’ve got this. I know you do.
You can find the original post in full here.
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Have you heard of the Startup Wake? It was built from the idea that failure is a part of the startup journey. Paul Hayes chats about how and why he created the Startup Wake event and the benefits that come from it.
These same thoughts apply to everything we do. “It’s through the failure stories that we really come to life.” This is so true! When you think about this in terms of speaking, it is the failures that we will learn from the most and that help us to grow in our speaking abilities. Take a listen as Paul tells a few stories and ends his talk in a most unique way.
Learn from the Best
"Failure is just a sign we need to widen our scope."
Jay Shetty gives us just the courage we need to keep going, to persevere until we are successful.
What is your biggest challenge as a tech speaker?
This newsletter is for you. I want it to include hints, tips and strategies that resonate with you.
So go ahead, hit reply and tell me what you find challenging as a speaker.
Book of the Week
I love a book that gives practical, actionable advice. This one is full of advice and suggestions on how to communicate with your audience, engage them with your presentation, and ‘rule the room’.
Teaching the art of public speaking
“When I’m speaking in front of people,” he says, “I don’t worry about being perfect, because I don’t think I need to be perfect.”
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